Unconditional Love ENERGY
Loving unconditionally is an energy and everyone has the capability to love unconditionally with NO STRINGS attached and no expectations. AGAPE doesn’t just exist in the bible. It is a humbling love energy and it’s possible that we can channel this as human beings.
Unconditional love does not come with age because there are alot of aged people that have not reached the point of understanding unconditional love. As a way to express love some people will say “I love you unconditionally” but that is not true because their love comes with conditions. Let’s face it, as humans our love comes with conditions. No matter how perfect we think we are. We have conditional love. And it’s ok… the first step is admitting.
You can tap into this energy but it takes many years to reach the level of unconditional love. It takes a lot of shadow work, healing, forgiveness with others and yourself. It takes a true knowing, understanding and connection with GOD to come close to this energy. But once you connect with unconditional love energy it is truly life changing. It’s life changing because it doesn’t matter what you may be offended by, the bigger picture; the growth, the love for yourself and where you are spiritual over powers what the ego tries to convince you that you should hold a grudge to.
When I was first introduced to working with unconditional love energy it was when I was divorced. My former father-in-law told me to promise him that I would not bad mouth my son’s father to our son like it was done to him. I was so angry because I thought to myself “how the hell are you going to ask this of me?” He made me promise that no matter how hard it got that I would NOT bad mouth him to the son we shared. So, I made the promise that I would not repeat a pattern that he suffered from.
Now, I definitely DID cuss him out mutiple times and acted completely out of character (check out my ratchet character flaws in Dealing with a Toxic EX journal entry), but I kept my word that I would NEVER bad mouth him to our son. So, to help myself in not doing that no matter how horrible it got I would say to myself “I love him, he was my best friend, I LOVED HIM.” I didn’t know what else to say. That’s all I had and it worked for me. Sometimes it would be unbearable beause I was in SO MUCH PAIN and I was so disrespected but I just kept saying it. Even with tears rolling down my eyes and sometimes going for long walks screaming to GOD. For any court appearances that we had I made sure to NEVER request the documents that he sent in because I knew that the information on it was not true and I didn’t want to read and absorb what he was saying because I did not trust myself enough at the time. I didn’t want to read it, get pissed and completely mess up all the work that I had done. I was determined to keep my promise to my former father-in-law. I loved him so much and when he passed away I was devastated, but even more deterimed to keep my word. So, still to this very day I have NO CLUE what was said about me in court documents. It was the best decision for me and for our son.
And to this day, my son, who is now 18, can confirm that I was always the most loving about his father even when it was excruciatingly difficult and even when they did not talk for 3.5 years; the ENTIRE time I was constantly saying loving things because it was my goal to not repeat a horrible generational pattern.
WORK WITH THE ENERGY
What is a situation that you can start to program your brain and subsconcious mind (because your subconcious mind is what holds the most pain that is too difficult for your brain to process)?
FIND A STATEMENT THAT YOU CAN REPEAT. A MANTRA. AND SAY IT AS MANY TIMES AS YOU NEED TO DURING THE DAY AND NIGHT.
UNCONDITIONAL LOVE ASSIGNMENT
I found out some devastating information about someone that I loved. It is difficult to love them to be honest, but I know that I do. This information was the most heartbreaking because it was completely out of character for them. It rocked me to my core and put me in a depression for many months.
The situation did not involve me but it went against everything that I have ever known about this person. A secret that I am not sure if it is even true but a secret that went against EVERY SINGLE moral and spiritual fiber in my body. I wanted to use my intutiveness to figure out what the truth was but the more I tried to do this the more unbalanced and dark I became.
One day I was meditating in the forest and GOD spoke to me. He told me that it is not for me to know what is true. He told me that it is not for me to judge. IT IS FOR ME TO SHOW UNCONDITIONAL LOVE. He reminded me of when I was a little girl and I would use my allowances to purchase this person Christmas gifts. The same Dollar General gift. He reminded me of the little girl who just wanted to love people and wanted love and asked me to tap into that.
I became overwhelmed with love and sadness for this person. I asked for forgiveness to GOD and gave the situation to him. And I did what he said. I showed unconditional love. I never brought up the information that I was told to this person. I am just myself and show love. This is not me forgetting or pretending something didn’t happen. It is me realizing that it is not for me to judge. I have no right. This situation does not involve me. I understood that I am to show love and that energy allows GOD to come in and do the work that he wants to do with the parties involved.
WORK WITH THE ENERGY
Do you have a situation that doesn’t involve you but you are disturbed by it? Ask GOD for guidance. If he makes it clear that you should show unconditional love by not judging and just truly showing and giving love then that is what you should do. If you don’t know what to do, take this journal entry as your sign to be still and LOVE.
LAST EXAMPLE: I had a friend that was my most challenging friend. This person is going through a difficult time and has decided to attack my character. A BIG NO-NO for me is when someone lies. It just enrages me because I feel that it is better to tell the truth… no matter how difficult or painful. This person made up a lie about me and I didn’t react the way I may have in the past with being confrontational and aggressive. I released that person from my life because I cannot have that negative toxic energy around me anymore. This person had NO CONVERSATION with me. They just decided to tell people that I betrayed them when I know I have done nothing. So, I released them from my life. It was time.
Instead of participate in the social media drama, I actually blocked them so that I can’t see anything posted BECAUSE what I hold in my heart is the LOVE for this person, their children, all the times I laughed hysterically, all the support that I was given (and gave back), the days that I felt down and at my lowest with depression and they showed up or called… and all the love that I carry for them in my heart and soul.
No matter what is said about me it does not matter. I don’t need to defend myself. So, although this person LITERALLY lied about me. I should be offended. I should be angry. But no. I LOVE. LOVE. LOVE THEM. Our chapter has ended but I will never forget the role they played and that is the love I channel.