I’M EVERY WOMAN, IT’S ALL IN ME!
WE ARE NURTURERS
We are women and we are natural nurturers. We get great pleasure in taking care of our families. We cook, clean, love, celebrate and keep our families in sync. We do this so much that often times we forget our needs.
When get exhausted handling everyone else’s needs and we start to get agitated and even sometimes resentful of our partners who we feel should help us keep our family in sync.
It’s ok to feel this way. This normal and this is a sign that your body is giving to let you know that it needs some self-care. We must learn to take care of ourselves so that we can take care of our family in the most healthy way. No one wants a wife or mother who takes care of your needs but does it with a negative energy and complaining.
The #1 cause: nature vs. nurture
One of the biggest mistakes that we make as women is that we have so much of a nurturing spirit that we will literally take care of every single thing in our household. We don’t allow our partners to do much and sometimes we can even act as the brain of our child. How draining is that?
We need to learn how to delegate with our partner. Men should be natural alpha males and they have a nature to lead the family so we need to allow them the space to do that while we play the nurture role. Our job is to keep the family in sync NOT to be the mother and father of the family. Our need to control things will definitely leave us feeling resentful.
And if you have the personality where you do like to control things because you feel that it won’t get done if you don’t take care of it yourself, then there are many other conversations that you need to have with yourself. Some questions you could ask yourself are:
Am I allowing my partner to lead our family by making decisions and also asking my input in making decisions?
Am I a controlling person?
Do I allow people in my home to grow or do I think and do everything for them?
What presence does my energy in my home give?
Do I have a true partner who welcomes me taking care of myself?
Do my current family dynamics overwhelm me? And why?
Am I end a secure place in my home where I can vocalize my exhaustion and be heard?
Answering these questions should put you in the path to examine your situation. Yes, we are women, it’s all in us but we must remember that we have to take care of ourselves while we play the superwoman role.
